Comments on: A Simple ‘Thank You’ Would Be Enough http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/2005/12/15/a-simple-thank-you-would-be-enough/ Blog written by two Prague residents about life in the Czech Republic. Sun, 01 May 2011 19:41:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Dana http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/2005/12/15/a-simple-thank-you-would-be-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-37 Dana Wed, 28 Dec 2005 12:24:10 +0000 http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/?p=34#comment-37 That's an interesting way to look at it, Shae. I agree that it is not quite fair to accept a compliment for something that has been created by others. On the other hand, you usually have some kind of a say in the way you look. You're the one to style your hair every morning, you're the one to put on makeup, choose the clothes you wear, select that piece of jewelry in the store... My blonde friend knew that the particular red blouse would look great on her. My other friend worked on her tan and decided to get highlights in her hair. We exert an effort to create and maintain a look that prompts others to give compliments. I admit I'm at a loss when people tell me how beautiful my dog is. Thanking them for something that has been created by nature and is carried so well by him seems just wrong. That’s an interesting way to look at it, Shae. I agree that it is not quite fair to accept a compliment for something that has been created by others. On the other hand, you usually have some kind of a say in the way you look. You’re the one to style your hair every morning, you’re the one to put on makeup, choose the clothes you wear, select that piece of jewelry in the store… My blonde friend knew that the particular red blouse would look great on her. My other friend worked on her tan and decided to get highlights in her hair. We exert an effort to create and maintain a look that prompts others to give compliments.

I admit I’m at a loss when people tell me how beautiful my dog is. Thanking them for something that has been created by nature and is carried so well by him seems just wrong.

]]> By: Shae http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/2005/12/15/a-simple-thank-you-would-be-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Shae Tue, 27 Dec 2005 22:24:55 +0000 http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/?p=34#comment-36 My observation here in the USA, with teenage girls is the same as mentioned with women of the Czech- the down-play of the compliment. I joined in right with them when I was that age, with the whole, "I'm so fat, I'm so ugly" trend. I thought it as modesty at the time, but looking back I now find it a form of narcissism, and a bit rude when I turned down the gift of a compliment. I now find it very easy to just say "thank you," when someone likes something of me, even if I disagree with them and go so far as to add that as well. ALTHOUGH- lately I <em>have</em> been thinking about how strange it is that we accept a compliment for our looks which we were born with, or the hair cut that we only paid for, or the jewelry we wear, crafted by another artisan. lately it does seem funny to me to accept these compliments when I think they should go to someone else, and I sympathize with the above mentioned Czech women My observation here in the USA, with teenage girls is the same as mentioned with women of the Czech- the down-play of the compliment. I joined in right with them when I was that age, with the whole, “I’m so fat, I’m so ugly” trend. I thought it as modesty at the time, but looking back I now find it a form of narcissism, and a bit rude when I turned down the gift of a compliment. I now find it very easy to just say “thank you,” when someone likes something of me, even if I disagree with them and go so far as to add that as well.
ALTHOUGH- lately I have been thinking about how strange it is that we accept a compliment for our looks which we were born with, or the hair cut that we only paid for, or the jewelry we wear, crafted by another artisan. lately it does seem funny to me to accept these compliments when I think they should go to someone else, and I sympathize with the above mentioned Czech women

]]> By: ruzete http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/2005/12/15/a-simple-thank-you-would-be-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-27 ruzete Sat, 17 Dec 2005 06:04:32 +0000 http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/?p=34#comment-27 Hi Dana, I totally agree with you a Czech girl at my school kind of acts modest if i complement her, while us American girls dowse her in complements she doesn't seem to take them well. Hi Dana,
I totally agree with you a Czech girl at my school kind of acts modest if i complement her, while us American girls dowse her in complements she doesn’t seem to take them well.

]]> By: Dana http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/2005/12/15/a-simple-thank-you-would-be-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-26 Dana Fri, 16 Dec 2005 21:05:19 +0000 http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/?p=34#comment-26 Thank you. :) Thank you. :)

]]> By: Ted http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/2005/12/15/a-simple-thank-you-would-be-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-25 Ted Fri, 16 Dec 2005 19:55:18 +0000 http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/?p=34#comment-25 Hi Dana, Perhaps you are right about women in the Czech Republic. I was only there for a week and I really do not know any of the Czech language. Nice story. Ted Hi Dana, Perhaps you are right about women in the Czech Republic.

I was only there for a week and I really do not know any of the Czech language.

Nice story.

Ted

]]> By: sun-flower http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/2005/12/15/a-simple-thank-you-would-be-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-24 sun-flower Fri, 16 Dec 2005 18:35:05 +0000 http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/?p=34#comment-24 Hi Dana! Nice story, as usual)) Yes, some women seem to feel a kind of guilt when they are looking great and especialy when you tell them about it. And some women seem feeling themselves uncomfortable getting compliments as if a compliment means that they have to give something in return. May be these women should visit a special course called "How to accept a compliment")) Nat Hi Dana!
Nice story, as usual))
Yes, some women seem to feel a kind of guilt when they are looking great and especialy when you tell them about it.
And some women seem feeling themselves uncomfortable getting compliments as if a compliment means that they have to give something in return. May be these women should visit a special course called “How to accept a compliment”))
Nat

]]> By: Dana http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/2005/12/15/a-simple-thank-you-would-be-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-23 Dana Fri, 16 Dec 2005 17:46:38 +0000 http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/?p=34#comment-23 Hi Ted and thanks for your comment. I have found that women in the USA usually accept compliments readily, with a polite 'thank you'. I think they are much more used to receiving and paying compliments to each other than is typical in the Czech Republic. Czechs seem to become uncomfortable and shy when they're faced with direct praise. Hi Ted and thanks for your comment. I have found that women in the USA usually accept compliments readily, with a polite ‘thank you’. I think they are much more used to receiving and paying compliments to each other than is typical in the Czech Republic. Czechs seem to become uncomfortable and shy when they’re faced with direct praise.

]]> By: Ted http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/2005/12/15/a-simple-thank-you-would-be-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-22 Ted Fri, 16 Dec 2005 17:25:09 +0000 http://blog.myczechrepublic.com/?p=34#comment-22 The obsevation is true for women in every country that I have been to. The obsevation is true for women in every country that I have been to.

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